Just a reminder to stay light-hearted about things. I feel my best when I’m not too worried about what people think or say about me.
I used to really struggle with this. I was always concerned with the way others saw me, and I still am to an extent. But I had to stop letting the will of others dictate my own will. Rather than wondering if someone likes you, try looking at yourself and make sure that you like you. I noticed that the more I started to focus on doing what I needed to love myself, the less negative people seemed to hold me down. I wasn’t looking to impress; rather I was looking to be the best version of myself, for myself. I showed kindness yet not concern for the negativity of others.
Don’t let anyone else’s opinion of you start to define how you view yourself. At the end of the day, what matters are the opinions of the ones that we are most close with. We never owe our time and efforts to people that doubt us, dislike us, or weigh us down in general. Dedicate your time to the passions and people that are feeding your soul positively. Show kindness –and nothing else- to those only looking to tear you down. I found that this has not only helped my self-esteem, but it has allowed me to continue to love even those who have hurt me.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. –Martin Luther King Jr.
Sometimes it feels like things can’t get any worse.
Lately in my life, a combination of bad things continue to keep happening. Around every corner a new problem arises, and it feels like I just cannot catch a break. The more I try to fix my problems, the more I see myself hurdling yet another set of obstacles. The harder I try to take positive actions, the more I see myself driving down the wrong roads…always hitting dead ends.
As I sit here –eating a tub of ice cream- I realize that problems are a lot like rain and hail. There is a pattern to negative thinking & negative actions. For me, the pattern goes like this: negative situations ➡️ negative attitude ➡️ negative actions. Like a storm, these thoughts/problems/situations pour down and begin to quickly clump. They overshadow every inch of life without allowing much room for sun. We need something to shield our heads or melt away the frost..
However, this analogy reminds me that I have many tools that allow for the sun to shine even during rain:
- Praying is such an important part of letting light into my life. Going to church or spending time to journal, write, and draw are all outlets that can conquer even the deepest, thickest, and most fridgid storm. My thoughts on rainy days in my life push me to feed my posive energies rather than dwelling on what is wrong.
- Family & friends remind me that the storm seems a lot worse when you’re stuck inside. When surrounding myself with those who love me, I find that no negativity can ever be as great as the affirmation and love that genuine people can give me. The light shines through after I spend time with the people I love most.
- Moving on is the hardest yet most effective part of rough times for me. If I tend to stay stagnant emotionally or physically when I am feeling down, I have a hard time climbing out of the darkness I find myself in. Moving on towards positive solutions and better choices can be the best way to beat the storm. Staying still is the worst thing we can do. If we continue on the same path, why would the clouds we create ever part?
Finally, I think it’s time for me to open my umbrella and start looking for the sun.. the more I realize that negativity is a storm, the more I see that it will eventually have to clear up; I have a lot of tools to make the best of my hardships and even conquer them…Heck, I might just throw on a rain coat and play in the puddles while I am it.
Lets not allow our storms to define us. Instead let us define ourselves by how we push through the storm and seek out the warm and sunny days ahead 💛
It is only in sorrow that bad weather masters us; in joy we face the storm and defy it – Amelia Barr
Photograph courteousy of Darren Burton
so, here we go.
With no particular image in mind or big plan, I have decided to channel my creativity by creating an online journal. What for? Well, I am naively aiming to inspire others with love. While I won’t tell you that I am some expert on love or even happiness, I can say that I am insanely passionate about bringing comfort/kindness to others. I believe that my purpose is to love. Whether it is through writing songs & singing, listening to music, taking photographs, or spending time with those around me, I am most happy doing these things with a heart full of love. Like the lifestyle I wish to live, my blog will be used to promote other creators as well as my own creativity. I seek to build a home for all those longing for warmth. Continue reading “Spreading Love”