Sometimes it feels like things can’t get any worse.
Lately in my life, a combination of bad things continue to keep happening. Around every corner a new problem arises, and it feels like I just cannot catch a break. The more I try to fix my problems, the more I see myself hurdling yet another set of obstacles. The harder I try to take positive actions, the more I see myself driving down the wrong roads…always hitting dead ends.
As I sit here –eating a tub of ice cream- I realize that problems are a lot like rain and hail. There is a pattern to negative thinking & negative actions. For me, the pattern goes like this: negative situations ➡️ negative attitude ➡️ negative actions. Like a storm, these thoughts/problems/situations pour down and begin to quickly clump. They overshadow every inch of life without allowing much room for sun. We need something to shield our heads or melt away the frost..
However, this analogy reminds me that I have many tools that allow for the sun to shine even during rain:
- Praying is such an important part of letting light into my life. Going to church or spending time to journal, write, and draw are all outlets that can conquer even the deepest, thickest, and most fridgid storm. My thoughts on rainy days in my life push me to feed my posive energies rather than dwelling on what is wrong.
- Family & friends remind me that the storm seems a lot worse when you’re stuck inside. When surrounding myself with those who love me, I find that no negativity can ever be as great as the affirmation and love that genuine people can give me. The light shines through after I spend time with the people I love most.
- Moving on is the hardest yet most effective part of rough times for me. If I tend to stay stagnant emotionally or physically when I am feeling down, I have a hard time climbing out of the darkness I find myself in. Moving on towards positive solutions and better choices can be the best way to beat the storm. Staying still is the worst thing we can do. If we continue on the same path, why would the clouds we create ever part?
Finally, I think it’s time for me to open my umbrella and start looking for the sun.. the more I realize that negativity is a storm, the more I see that it will eventually have to clear up; I have a lot of tools to make the best of my hardships and even conquer them…Heck, I might just throw on a rain coat and play in the puddles while I am it.
Lets not allow our storms to define us. Instead let us define ourselves by how we push through the storm and seek out the warm and sunny days ahead 💛
It is only in sorrow that bad weather masters us; in joy we face the storm and defy it – Amelia Barr
Photograph courteousy of Darren Burton